Spring 2022:
Communication Between
You & Your Officiant


What qualities to look for in your officiant:

Your ceremony officiant should be a great communicator, easy to talk with; flexible and open to your ideas and what you want for your wedding ceremony.  Every couple is different, with different values and beliefs, each love story is unique.  Booking an officiant who is open minded and understanding of your wishes is a core quality; after all, your wedding day is about the two of you!


Your expectations for performing the ceremony:

Your wedding officiant should be a confident public speaker.  It’s important that your guests can hear their voice project, but in a conversational manner.  When we perform the ceremony, we’re really speaking to the both of you on that day.  When we share a reading, we want it to be smooth and express the sentiment of your special day.


What your expectations for communication with your officiant are:

You should want your officiant to be responsive in a timely manner to your emails, texts and phone calls, not just when you’re booking them.  When you first reach out to a vendor, including your officiant, it’s reasonable to expect a reply within 24 hours or less, and honestly that should be the normal course of action even after you’ve booked them for your ceremony.  Your vendor should be clear about their process and keep you updated from time to time.  They should email you with the contract and information, a copy of the ceremony draft, and when it’s time for a meeting.  Their goal is to work to finalize the ceremony script and details at least 6 weeks before your wedding so we are all prepared, confident and relaxed.  When you reach out with questions or need information by email, text or phone call, your expectation is that your officiant will reply within 24 hours or less.  You want a responsive officiant who is personable, easy to talk with, understanding, flexible and cares about you and your wedding day.


What your officiant’s expectations for communication with you are:

When we receive an email or are contacted by a couple asking about our officiating services, it’s our practice to reply within 24 hours or less.  From there we’ll set up a time to meet for coffee or chat by phone or zoom, to get acquainted and learn what your ceremony wishes are, and share our process and the service we offer.  When a couple chooses to book us, they’ll receive an email with the information needed to fully book their date and write their custom ceremony.  As a vendor for one of the most important parts of your wedding day, it’s key for couples or brides to be equally responsive to emails, texts or phone calls so that we can do an exceptional job for you!  Reply with a confirmation that you received the information or attachments we emailed to you.  Do your best to answer to texts or phone calls within 24 hours or less, we may be asking an important question so we can make your wedding day perfect.  Your wedding is just as important to your wedding officiant as it is to you!


If you would like to chat more about including us as your wedding officiant, please feel free to contact us at – we would love to make your wedding day special, memorable and magical!


XO Rev. Elaine